Illusion is defined as that which changes. Which is dance. That which we project onto the holographic screen that we call reality. Real is called that which remains as it is and always was. The light that we are. That which looks at life and does not judge it.
You are not the sorrow and the suffering. You look at it, something watches it come and go. Be that. Remember that you are that. And then get up and feel the motion that you are. The wave form that you are. The water that you are. Always finding a way to reach its destiny, its destination.